Paulina giving an opinion on a threesome situation/issue.

Jason- "Figured I'd stop being silent and just say something already, you got a great blog. I read it as much as i can. I want your advise on something. A girl I'm seeing suggested a threesome, thing is its with her friend but i feel she's not the one really suggesting this
i care about her and all but she's impressionable and her friend kinda tell her to jump and she's like how high. Should i go along with it even though I'm not sure she's on board? or do i ask her? and stand the chance of messing this chance up."

Paulina- First thing I want to know is have you confronted this girl about how much of a push over she is when it comes to her friend?

Jason- "yeah i have but we're not exclusive, so i limited myself on how much i said. I just brought it up once and she didn't take it well."

Paulina- Well you will have to bring it up again in my opinion because she needs to know that is how you see it. So therefore you do not want to be involved with that friend sexually. Also get deep with her if she lets you. For example, tell her how much you care about her and you just don't want to get involved with a friend of hers in fear that it might mess what you have going with her.

Paulina- Has the friend hit on you or hint to you that she could have you if she wanted like some sneaky women tend to? smh..

Jason- "Yeah she has. How'd you know? I kinda take a personal rule not to get chumy with the girls friends and she just comes off as pure evil to me. lol"

Paulina- LOL because if you don't feel its the girl you are talking to suggesting it and you have an idea that its the friend. It makes me think that if that is true. Then perhaps she has hit on you. In fact she might has hit on you more then you know. Smh.. She is the kinda female that gives the rest of us a bad name. Anyways I think that you have a good personal rule because you don't want the 'pure evil' woman manipulating a situation to where you look in the wrong and then your girl takes her friends side and not yours. People tend to not see the whole picture when they are mad or denial doesn't let them see the truth.

Paulina- How long have you two been dating?

Jason- "A little over 2 months."

Paulina- Well things are fairly new so I don't know about bringing someone new in the bedroom all together, specially someone either of you know. I think you should ask her about if its her that really wants it. Explain why you don't want her friend to be the other chick and also explain why when it comes to your feelings about her (the girl you are dating). If you truly like her and care for her then you need to explain to her and show her.

Paulina- Now do you even want a threesome or can you live without it? Lol

Jason- "Yeah i do but I'm indifferent about it now that I know its with her friend. I've been in two before and all i can say is it a lot of work lol but fun too."

Paulina- Ahh well I would suggest you two picking someone as a couple. No friends. An acquaintance is better. You are better off going as a couple somewhere and picking up on a girl together. Its fun, flirty and heats things up for a threesome. I am worried about your chicks reaction to the whole thing though. Some people just don't want to hear that shit. I have lost friends because they don't believe me about their bf hitting on me. So I can understand why you fear it back firing on you. If I were you I would be ready for anything to happen when you have this discussion because the hard truth is she might just stop talking to you or you might just stop talking to her cause no one likes being called a liar and just not heard or/and believed.

-All Around Thoughts-

People think that the new person in their life is automatically a liar or just off and don't understand the friend, family member or whatever of theirs that the one they are dating don't get along with. This may be true but those people also have to consider that there is a new and fresh pair of eyes looking into the situation. Which can help them see what they don't or what they choose not to.

Something I would like to add is that she might think that it is a 'good' idea to have a friend involved with you two sexually because she thinks that nothing will happen between you all behind her back. Sad truth is, it is more likely for a friend and the bf/gf to cheat and stab you in the back. I don't know why but perhaps they think they can get away with easier. AND some 'friends' are not as loyal as they think. They are secretly haters and want everything you have. smdh...!