Definition of Jaded: Cynical by experiences
I am not a jaded person. One thing I have always said is DO NOT BLAME LOVE FOR YOUR EX WRONG DOING'S because that is not fair to yourself and others. That person may have done you wrong, however, you are not going to get anywhere in your love life by blaming love and every person you meet.
One thing I have always had problems and issues with is ex's because people keep them in the picture as full blown "best friends" or "friends" but in my experience ex's are just that ex's and they shouldn't be in the picture. Sure say hi... or acknowledge them if you run into them at the mall or some crap like that. {Note: My ex's in the past have always exaggerated when I told them how I feel about ex's acting like I said to be rude to their ex's or dis them. NO this is not what I am saying. However, if it is evident that the ex still likes you or/& trying to sabotage your relationship- tell them I am with someone and you are crossing a boundary right now.. and if they don't cross a boundary you need to make sure they don't. Don't talk to them constantly and do not hang out with them alone or with other couples.} Now I myself, can get unreasonable when it comes to ex's in the picture with current boyfriends because I always have to go over the boundaries and what I feel is not okay and I have yet to find someone who gets it completely. But then again. Do I get it completely? lol I am not sure. I'm not jealous of the ex's in fact some ex's of mine would laugh at that idea of me being jealous but its like a precaution because I have had issues with ex's in the picture and boyfriends not standing up to them or what not. I can handle my own but when it comes to ex's the bf should support me in telling them to back off or straight telling them they need to stop contacting him when they cross the line by disrespecting him and me.
I don't go looking for a problem like most people.
The phone issue:
When I am in my boyfriends phone its to play with it. Or I say I am being nosey.. I am honest. But men\women make it an issue about their phone being looked in. Mainly because they have something to hide and when that is not the case they are just being overly protective because they had an ex that made big deals about every little thing. People do not get mad over things that were in the phone before your relationship, even if they are nude pictures of girls/guys or freaky/loveydovey texts.... if it was before your relationship let it go. Asking questions is okay and people if its not accusing you of anything... ANSWER the questions... and be real with the type of person you are because I bet some of you are saying ya I am the one who has had crazy ex's go through my phone... are you really? or did you have something in your phone you had no real explanation for and THEN she/he got crazy with you about it. Be honest about how you really are. Unless you are not trying to change... then screw it. Stay the same and lie to yourself all you want.
How do you know if you are being jaded? Well when I know, I am on the verge of getting angry for no real reason and its only because we are talking out a situation I had a major problem with in the past with SOMEONE ELSE, I start to tell myself to calm down. And if I start to feel insecure, I tell my boyfriend like right now I am being a little insecure and this is why... but most of us can't do that. But if you love him/her you need to be honest with them and if you are the one receiving this information you need to not throw it in their face or get angry. COMPROMISE is important because you are not always going to be happy with things your man/women wants to do but if you make a compromise and you know all the terms and when you agree on it don't back out on it, it can get better. Don't get mad or jealous/insecure over something you said that you be okay with. If the other person is not sticking the terms then bring it up and let them know how unfair they are being. Don't attack him/her!
One thing you always have to consider with compromising. If she/he is not worth compromising for then you need to end it or take a break and slow the pace down. Because your girlfriend/boyfriend should be before a lot of things like ex's, phones, social sites, random girls/guys trying to get at you or vise versa and etc... If you are not willing to let these things go before you would lose your bf/gf then you don't care about that person. You might not even love them like you think you do because it should not be any question if you want to or should you. And if you see that someone is not changing those actions that are a problem then you needed to consider the obvious.
--->Getting over being jaded
Well I would suggest not getting with someone until you have had time to come to terms of your ex's actions. Be friends with someone before getting into a relationship... date for a while. -This can maybe give you insight on who they are and if you see something you don't like you can stop it before it starts-
Getting over being jaded isn't easy but it can be done it will creep on you but you just have to train yourself to calm down and realize you are not dating that same person. EVERYONE handles different situations differently and your current relationship might not have the same issues because he/she might hear you out or already agree with you on how you see things. However, you need to make sure your approach is correct.
When you have issues don't just blurt out how your ex's did you wrong and blah blah blah... That gets old real quick and it is never a real excuse for your actions toward the new bf/gf. Get your act together realize the differences between what you current bf/gf actually did and if the anger you have is really because of that or because it resembles an issue you had with an ex. If so take a deep breath, think about it, if its because of an ex then apologize and make a compromise. Now it is something like flirting, cheating or suspicious convo's and hangouts with ex's or random men/women... then that is a whole other topic called cheaters and you might be dating one. Email me if you get confused about being jaded and being in a relationship with an alleged cheater.
The point is let go of your past and when you feel like & know you are overly reacting to something you know is because of an ex.. be honest with yourself and to your bf/gf
SO LOVES I AM SORRY FOR BEING AWAY SO LONG BUT I AM BACK. STILL DON'T THINK I WILL BE WRITING SEX STORIES ANYTIME SOON BUT THE WRITER IN ME HAS TO WRITE MY THOUGHTS, OPINIONS AND IDEAS OUT... =]
PLEASE SHARE WITH ME YOUR THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS IN THE COMMENTS BELOW THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.
LOVE PAULINA<3
I am not a jaded person. One thing I have always said is DO NOT BLAME LOVE FOR YOUR EX WRONG DOING'S because that is not fair to yourself and others. That person may have done you wrong, however, you are not going to get anywhere in your love life by blaming love and every person you meet.
One thing I have always had problems and issues with is ex's because people keep them in the picture as full blown "best friends" or "friends" but in my experience ex's are just that ex's and they shouldn't be in the picture. Sure say hi... or acknowledge them if you run into them at the mall or some crap like that. {Note: My ex's in the past have always exaggerated when I told them how I feel about ex's acting like I said to be rude to their ex's or dis them. NO this is not what I am saying. However, if it is evident that the ex still likes you or/& trying to sabotage your relationship- tell them I am with someone and you are crossing a boundary right now.. and if they don't cross a boundary you need to make sure they don't. Don't talk to them constantly and do not hang out with them alone or with other couples.} Now I myself, can get unreasonable when it comes to ex's in the picture with current boyfriends because I always have to go over the boundaries and what I feel is not okay and I have yet to find someone who gets it completely. But then again. Do I get it completely? lol I am not sure. I'm not jealous of the ex's in fact some ex's of mine would laugh at that idea of me being jealous but its like a precaution because I have had issues with ex's in the picture and boyfriends not standing up to them or what not. I can handle my own but when it comes to ex's the bf should support me in telling them to back off or straight telling them they need to stop contacting him when they cross the line by disrespecting him and me.
I don't go looking for a problem like most people.
The phone issue:
When I am in my boyfriends phone its to play with it. Or I say I am being nosey.. I am honest. But men\women make it an issue about their phone being looked in. Mainly because they have something to hide and when that is not the case they are just being overly protective because they had an ex that made big deals about every little thing. People do not get mad over things that were in the phone before your relationship, even if they are nude pictures of girls/guys or freaky/loveydovey texts.... if it was before your relationship let it go. Asking questions is okay and people if its not accusing you of anything... ANSWER the questions... and be real with the type of person you are because I bet some of you are saying ya I am the one who has had crazy ex's go through my phone... are you really? or did you have something in your phone you had no real explanation for and THEN she/he got crazy with you about it. Be honest about how you really are. Unless you are not trying to change... then screw it. Stay the same and lie to yourself all you want.
How do you know if you are being jaded? Well when I know, I am on the verge of getting angry for no real reason and its only because we are talking out a situation I had a major problem with in the past with SOMEONE ELSE, I start to tell myself to calm down. And if I start to feel insecure, I tell my boyfriend like right now I am being a little insecure and this is why... but most of us can't do that. But if you love him/her you need to be honest with them and if you are the one receiving this information you need to not throw it in their face or get angry. COMPROMISE is important because you are not always going to be happy with things your man/women wants to do but if you make a compromise and you know all the terms and when you agree on it don't back out on it, it can get better. Don't get mad or jealous/insecure over something you said that you be okay with. If the other person is not sticking the terms then bring it up and let them know how unfair they are being. Don't attack him/her!
One thing you always have to consider with compromising. If she/he is not worth compromising for then you need to end it or take a break and slow the pace down. Because your girlfriend/boyfriend should be before a lot of things like ex's, phones, social sites, random girls/guys trying to get at you or vise versa and etc... If you are not willing to let these things go before you would lose your bf/gf then you don't care about that person. You might not even love them like you think you do because it should not be any question if you want to or should you. And if you see that someone is not changing those actions that are a problem then you needed to consider the obvious.
--->Getting over being jaded
Well I would suggest not getting with someone until you have had time to come to terms of your ex's actions. Be friends with someone before getting into a relationship... date for a while. -This can maybe give you insight on who they are and if you see something you don't like you can stop it before it starts-
Getting over being jaded isn't easy but it can be done it will creep on you but you just have to train yourself to calm down and realize you are not dating that same person. EVERYONE handles different situations differently and your current relationship might not have the same issues because he/she might hear you out or already agree with you on how you see things. However, you need to make sure your approach is correct.
When you have issues don't just blurt out how your ex's did you wrong and blah blah blah... That gets old real quick and it is never a real excuse for your actions toward the new bf/gf. Get your act together realize the differences between what you current bf/gf actually did and if the anger you have is really because of that or because it resembles an issue you had with an ex. If so take a deep breath, think about it, if its because of an ex then apologize and make a compromise. Now it is something like flirting, cheating or suspicious convo's and hangouts with ex's or random men/women... then that is a whole other topic called cheaters and you might be dating one. Email me if you get confused about being jaded and being in a relationship with an alleged cheater.
The point is let go of your past and when you feel like & know you are overly reacting to something you know is because of an ex.. be honest with yourself and to your bf/gf
SO LOVES I AM SORRY FOR BEING AWAY SO LONG BUT I AM BACK. STILL DON'T THINK I WILL BE WRITING SEX STORIES ANYTIME SOON BUT THE WRITER IN ME HAS TO WRITE MY THOUGHTS, OPINIONS AND IDEAS OUT... =]
PLEASE SHARE WITH ME YOUR THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS IN THE COMMENTS BELOW THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.
LOVE PAULINA<3
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