I highly dislike when a guy I am dating or when I see it in other relationships... when the other person in the relationship talks about there relationship problems to the sex they are attracted to or ex's... Just other people in general too much. It is something I put my foot down on hard and have even broken up with guys over this. Because that is how you are letting others influence your relationship. It should be a small crowd of people you trust to talk to and it should be someone who has known you your whole life or most of it. Not an ex. I can't stand that bro.
Why is this bad? Well for one when you involve the wrong people in your relationship you are letting people who don't care about you and your happiness to the full extent. Which can make matters worse and influence you to make the wrong choices with your relationship and you will more than likely regret. Someone who knows you will see if someone else fits with your lifestyle and who you are. And can tell if you truly love that someone, then they will guide you into how to fix things or approach things to their ability.
Even if someone of the sex you are attracted to doesn't have feelings towards you it can get messy. So if you talk to them about your relationship problems because men/women love attention and like getting it from you and if you are back on track with your other half, they won't get that attention you've been giving to him/her anymore. Jealousy can come up and that can lead to numerous problems.
Talking to ex's about anything personal seems to me a logical thing not to do. However, people just don't see it that way. They think things are really over and could handle any situation that did come along. But ex's are sneaky and know you enough to be conniving, pretending, fake and manipulative "friends." Even if they don't want you back they want to cause you pain, maybe payback for the pain they claim you gave them or just for plain jealousy reasons. I can understand a friendship but not a "best friend" relationship where they tell each other too much information about their current personal lives.
What about family? Your closest family member to you is important to have to tell you like it is. But don't let too much family in your relationship. Let them guide you but not make ultimate decisions, you need to do that. Another reason you don't want many people in your relationship other then they can ruin a good thing is they will end up hating/recesenting him/her because you have just pleaded your case and basically vented and when you do make up with your other half your people's will have mixed feelings. Which is healthy but we naturally as human beings don't tell the whole story or in denial about how shit went down. We even have to consider that we do not know what's going on in our bf/gf head and haven't heard them out because of the anger.
A lot of things can be worked out between you and your bf/gf on your own. You don't need any outside help. Take a breather and then get back to the topic, with intentions to work it out, & not prove the other one wrong. Also pick and choose your fights because fighting about every little thing can be stressful on a relationship which isn't good at all.
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