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Sex before marriage, are you for it or against it?

I had brought this up in a forum and it there was so much controversy because I simple said I find it hard at times because of my beliefs. I was not indicating that all people battle with this because of their beliefs. I know there might be things like you are not ready or you haven't found that person that made you comfortable enough to go there with them. I have even been told that they were just scared that their parents would find out and the reasons can just go on and on. 

Statistically 80% of Christians like myself have sex before marriage according to http://urbanbellemag.com posted May 15, 2012. Which I have to say I can see that because a lot of the Christians I have met or know are not virgins. 

(People in general not just Christians) Which is unfortunate because 54% of women and 16% percent of men regret having sex before marriage. And 38% percent of them said that it has been the influence in the moral decisions when it comes to sex (http://www.belmontvision.com/ posted 11/8/07).

Now I know not everyone is Christians, however, I am a Christian and I found this because it can help me with my own battles. I am aware we all believe in something different so lets first off respect that =]

I just tell people this. Do what makes you happy. If you want to be a virgin and wait for marriage or for that one then do that. Do what YOU want. At the same time don't judge me for living the way I want. Which people kind of get that way when they find out I am a Christian or just believe in God and also know about my blog and just know of me in general. I was and in a way was that person that always talked about sex. I never wanted to seek God because I was ashamed of everything I had done in my life not just sex wise but yea sex.. 

I have changed so much. I am a lot private with my thoughts on random things and hardly cuss as much. I am not as explicit either and sometimes I feel like I am being fake and not me. But I am choosing to live my life this way so it IS ME.. Does that make sense. 

I am mainly talking about this because it seems to be on a lot of people's mind more than just mine. I am in college and the subject has came up just hanging out with friends more than once. Its on our minds because if we haven't had sex, we are thinking about it. There is no real guidance around schools just precautions and condoms there for you to be safe. But there is no one there that can be on our level and just talk to us like people who are growing up in this world too. People talk to children or young adults like they have no clue and just need to know the bad but what about the good? 

So I ask you is sex a good thing?
What are your thoughts on sex before marriage?

I think sex is a good thing. God created sex but we are not making the right choices all the time when it comes to sex. And I believe that is where we go wrong.. 

-Paulina

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